"If we can only live once, let it be a daring adventure."
"life's too short for burning bridges
take it one day at a time
oh oh oh he's a working class man"
"But le Tour is at heart a sporting challenge. Surely no event asks more of its competitors. It is long, hazardous, exposing, physically and mentally draining, replete with skullduggery, breaking men and making them, building chapter by chapter into each year's new epic. Temperamentally, it suits Cadel. He is a singular combination of diesel engine and violin, able to chug away at metronomic rpms for hours at a time, but also delicately strung, obsessive about health, hygiene and appearance, a reclusive, sensitive soul who is married to an Italian pianist and cares about his little dog and Tibet, but on the road is steely and indestructible."
"Australia is, in fact, an old man's bureaucracy."
"I feel that it is imperative that I give something back to the world around me in any way I can. If that means teaching people the power of their mind, the power to change the outcome, to look upon life positively rather than negatively etcetera, I think that that's part of what I'm driven by."
"The greatest gift on this planet is to love and be loved."
"Villains are rarely simple men."
"The secret of solitude is that there is no solitude."
"I like the idea of just observing these great young men of ours going into their further adulthood and being excited by what they will do. I like the idea of friend who are now, as we get older, have more time available to be as friends and can enjoy endlessly our experiences of the past. I like the idea of continuing to work because work can be fun. And I really like the idea of watching Australia be safe. We are safe. Could be safer. But one of the things that I'm always concerned about, you can't be any other way if you've spent a lifetime in uniform is to think to all of those who make us safe - good luck, keep it going, do more. "
"Oh, fatherhood has a very humanising effect on a bloke like me in the military. As a dad, you become absolutely aware of your own human frailty and a need to be nurturing and compassionate and fatherly "
"Men as well as women, must strive for a balance of experience. Masculinity, defined as requiring the ability to act physically or mentally but excluding anything too emotional or nurturing, currently denies men this balance. Their ability to care is seen as inappropriate for everyday use, and a lack of desire for power or promotion are seen as signs of inadequacy."
"A balance is necessary in life. To achieve this we must move away from broad definitions of workplaces as functional and households as emotional. Similarly, home, the haven in a heartless world, as defined by men, cannot be used by them as an antidote to the workplace's discomforts and demands, if this means having the wife as a servicer."
"We have to recognise that the validation of identity comes through relationships we have and what we produce."
"To keep quiet about sexism and verbal put-downs is to condone violence. This complicit silence is acted out thousands of times a day - the turning of a blind eye to abuse that we know deep down is unacceptable. Soft-pedalling on abuse arodes our collective capacity to exercise compassion and respect, as well as guaranteeing the safety and wellbeing of everyone, especially women and girls."
"High levels of sexual assault and family violence will prevail as long as a tolerator culture persists. Men who care deeply about the women and girls in their lives - mothers, daughters, partners and friends - need to recognise that other men are violent (physically, emotionally and psychologically) towards other women and girls. Silence, defensiveness and passivity... acts as potent cultural affirmation. When men in every sphere of leadership - political, corporate, workplace and community - acknowledge the violence of other men as their issue and show they are prepared to change the attitudes and behaviours of their male peers, the tolerator fabric will wear thin. Rest assured, all of society can only benefit."
"The stark reality is that sexual assault and family violence is highly gendered... the overwhelming majority of sexual assault and family violence perpetrators are male. Women know intimately how they order their lives to reduce the risk of male violence that stems from an unhealthy and anti-social masculinity that depends on entitlement, intimidation, domination and control. Most men clearly reject this particular masculinity, rejecting violence in their relationships with women. The next step is for these men to realise the leadership power they have to change the cultural context that produces abusive power."
"One constant in a world of variables - a man alone in the evening in his patch of vegetables. and all the things he takes down with him there, where the easement runs along the back fence."
"There are few lonelier sounds than the echoes of an empty house previously filled with the voice of a child, but it's one fathers confront in the vase majority of separations and divorces."
"Well the circumstances certainly cleared the smoke from my cocky cockpit over the past 12 months and, as I've come to terms with the reality of being a single father, it also dawned on me that this enigmatic woman of my dreams had already arrived. The 'epiphany' was that she's not a woman at all but a little girl: my daughter. Here, finally, is the person I can love wildly, unconditionally and forever. It will never go away. My daughter will never walk out or hang up on me (I hope), and I know with a certitude akin to breathing that I will never do so to her."
"For the first time I saw my life not as a one-night stand but a continuum, where I owed the generation that followed protection and respect."
"Men may have their sports and competition of the dressing room, but women's most intense sexual rivalries are over fertility and motherhood. "
"I have crushed the cup of youth like a rose between my fingers but its nectar never warmed my weary heart."
"In Mendrisio I felt it - the exhilaration of what the bike has to offer. It's a simple machine that conjures a vast mix of emotions. It can evoke the senses and raise the spirits of people who watch. For those who ride it can seem like the perfect vehicle for transport. For those who race, there's no better sensation than being on top of your gear making mountains feel like flat roads. Cycling throws up plenty of obstacles, unknown territory, high speed split-second considerations. Where to next? What's around the next corner? Who cares? You're flyin'!"
"A Fortunate Life"
"Fear can do terrible things to a man."
"All societies on the verge of death are masuline. A society can survive with only one man; no society can survive a shortage of women."
"Man made one grave mistake: in answer to vaguely reformist and humanitarian agitation he admitted women to politics and the professions. The conservatives who saw this as the undermining of our civilisation and the end of the state and marriage were right after all; it is time for the demolition to begin."
"Every time a woman makes herself laugh at her husband's often-told jokes she betrays him. The man who looks at his woman and says 'What would I do without you?' is already destroyed."
"The most threatened group in human societies as in animal societies is the unmated male: the unmated male is more likely to wind up in prison or in an asylum or dead than his mated counterpart. He is less likely to be promoted at work and he is considered a poor credit risk."
"Every time a man unburdens his heart to a stranger he reaffirms the love that unites humanity."
"The tragedy of machismo is that a man is never quite man enough."
"Woman... cannot be content with health and agility: she must make exorbitant efforts to appear something that never could exist without a diligent perversion of nature. Is it too much to ask that women be spared the daily struggle for superhuman beauty in order to offer it to the caresses of a subhumanly ugly mate?"
"A man with great drive and energy is considered healthily ambitious, a woman with the same qualities is considered aggressively ambitious. "
"Peoples have come to experience that political structures and divisions of power are not immutable. Nor will they perceive the distribution of wealth and resources between nations to be unalterably ordained by heaven and incapable of drastic rearrangement by the less than gentle manipulation of man."
"Although I am madly patriotic, I am bored by talk of 'Nationalism'. What is Nationalism but the football-team spirit? Actually I hate Australians. I hate their faces, with those long Punch noses... & their cruel thin lips & moron's brows & hooded idiot's eyes. Yet I can turn to them in relief & love from contemplating the juicy faces of Pommies. I loathe Englishmen so much, that I can tell their footprints (bare feet of course) & about their tracks there is to me something obscene. Oh, I'm not a bit practical about my patriotism. Here's an example. Some years ago, in the town of Darwin, I rushed out of my house in the middle of the night & attacked a number of drunken Pommy sailors (off a British warship) who were piddling in the street. I rushed upon them roaring, 'How dare you piss on my country!' Fortunately they bolted."
"I was living in Echuca at the time. He sniffed me out. A well-appointed little bungalow in the kerosene-tub style. River frontage. Two acres of fine soil. Tomatoes. Broccoli. The odd chook... Rhode Island Reds. Yabbies. Manure. An invalid pension. What more could a man want?"
"Whatever is is a movement; man is a movement-to something other than man."
"Where man is the end, or the means, all men are mean."
"If the monkeys had been concerned only with monkey Beings they would never have become men."
"Man must move to things, to non-human matter- There is nowhere else to go."
"The man just is, but clothes are becoming."
"There are three stages of history:
When the stars rule men, this is religion
When men rule men, this is politics;
And when men rule machines, this is anarchy..."
"Men must go out of their minds."
"Psychologists are men with nothing in their own minds, searching in the minds of others for an idea-in order to kill it."
"We must leave these beginnings, beings, believings- man, what are you growing?"
"What would it profit a man if he kept his soul and lost the whole world?"
"Every man is inferior to every other man - in some respects;
And every man is superior to every other man - in other respects.
We can't live without holding someone else up,
And we can't live without someone holding us up.
One man is just as good as another, in fact better."
"The trouble with men is that they are mean - they may mean, but they don't move."
"The very success of 'mateship' in Australia eroded individualism. In a sense mateship was a protection against individualism...it is probably one of the most characteristic folk beliefs of Australia. There is concern for the ordinariness in Australians. Consider Anzac Day again - men in their ordinary clothes, marching through the streets out of step, unpretentious; and then getting drunk in the most ordinary manner imaginable. It is a celebration of the essential ordinariness and the common human-ness of man."
"With sport went beer drinking and gambling - until recently restricted by the wowsers, but part of that code of mateship of men, that necessity constantly to demonstrate masculine sameness, which provided one of the most flattening sources of uniformity."
"Becoming a father, I think it inevitably changes your perspective of life. I don't get nearly enough sleep. And the simplest things in life are completely satisfying. I find you don't have to do as much, like you don't go on as many outings."
"I have a terrific marriage, but unlike a lot of relationships where they ebb and flow, no matter what happens you fall deeper and deeper in love every day. It's kind of the best thing that can happen to you. It's thrilling."
"We need men to find their inner compassion and women to find their inner strength. We need to call on all our human qualities and ways of knowing in order to make a better world. "
"A bachelor is only half a man"
"Man is a predatory animal, and this aspect of his nature is nowhere better suited by environment than in the world of politics."
"Now that spring is no longer to be recognised in blossoms or in new leaves on trees, I must look for it in myself. I feel the ice of myself cracking. I feel myself loosen and flow again, reflecting the world. That is what spring means."
"We are continuous with all the particles of our physical being, as in our breathing we are continuous with the sky. Between our bodies and the world there is unity and commerce."
"Women are the more important members of relationships. Women are the survivors, the nurturers and the bosses, despite men pretending it's a male dominated society."
"Men and women are like the two wings of a bird. Without one or the other, it cannot fly high. In the world of agriculture, we women don't need to be 'look-alike men', but play our part in nurturing the land and its people. "
"If your body is crying out for a change, or crying out that it's unhappy, for goodness sake listen to it. Our bodies aren't machines that get by with a grease and oil change every 50,000 kilometres. Stress is part of life but if prolonged stress is in our life, we have to ask ourselves if we are in the right place, right frame of mind, or doing the right job."
"It's good for them (Australians) - the sector is in perennial need of all sorts of inputs - but it's also good for us. It gives back so much more than we ever give it. When we volunteer to do something that is absolutely non-compulsory, chances are we get back a very special feeling that sadly many of us don't otherwise have."
"I am one of the few men honest enough to say they do not understand women. "
"For me the breakthrough was the realization that I wasn't the center of the universe or even the centre of my own world. That you and your work, your living, are not the only reason you're here. Your role is to shepherd your children through to adulthood. That's the point of life. Your own little sessions and needs and passions are just there to flavour you and help you do that job for your children."
"People who sit tight usually remain where they are."
"Most men have got no idea what true strength is. They think they've got it, muscles and so on. That is a small part of strength. "
"A man must be himself or nothing!"
"Women temper men. We have a good influence on them."
"I find myself moved by man in his new violent environment. I want to paint this explicitly and beautifully."
"Sexual harassment is becoming the modus operandi of the new world (on-line)... It is the means by which some males are conquering and claiming the new territory as their own."
"... the waste, the insane freaks of these money men, the cynicism and egotism of their life... I'll show that they are not brilliant, not romantic, not delightful, not intelligent."
"I do not want to go to heaven; I want my children, forever children, and other children, stalwart adults, and a good happy wife, that is all I ask, but not paradise; earth is good enough for me: it is because I believe earth is heaven, Naden, that I can overcome all my troubles and face down my enemies."
"We are primitive men; we taboo what we desire and need. How did the denying of love come to be associated with the idea of morality."
"I find is absolutely essential to my daily existence getting out into the backyard. When one's feeling dishevelled, stressed out, rattled, I know that in ten minutes of fossicking about in this backyard I am very quickly, therapeutically almost, back on an even keel."
"I think human beings need contact with soil... it's almost a sensual, textural - I won't go so far as to say sexual - experience to actually get your fingers in the soil and the grit under your fingernails."