"Surely love and respect bring a natural limit to free speech. Ignorance and hateful speech have nothing much to commend it."
"In the hard journey back to life and health, it sure helps to know that there are people in the world who will love and encourage and help."
"New life (you might say 'grace') is always coming at us but the trick about embracing new life is letting go."
"Mature relationships are those that know intimacy will be won and lost and won again. The impulse to maintain intimacy without end, the impulse to live on an emotional high without end, is the impulse of an addict."
"The innate impulse to defend one's self against people's expectation and potential wrongdoing is so strong it's possible to spend most of our lifetime defending, rather than living."
"When anyone wins, we all win and the celebration is real and when anyone is lost, we are all lost and sometimes knowing the sadness of it, feeling the waste and the loss, is our quiet duty and our deepest honour. I suspect that the human spirit that can soar to great heights can also sit in the silence of hopes dashed. It's hard to feel the jarring thud of disappointment without trying to rescue; without trying to cheer up; without appearing to have all the answers and yet that is THE lesson that is key to life by the Wayside."
"There are none so blind as those who know how they feel about things. I wouldn't mind but such people are usually evangelical too, they're miserable about someone or something and they want to share it. Here's my tip for the day - before you unload on anyone today, stop for just long enough to ask yourself what you see. Are you seeing a person or a problem?"
"The blind spot of this generation is that it thinks that authentic expression of feeling somehow gives legitimacy to hurtful acts."
"Love isn't a feeling. Love happens. It's an activity. It's a communal activity. Sometimes it's like a whisper in the ear and other times it's like a wrestling match but always, it happens."
"He has planted himself in the soil of despair; let's hope from there we see the beginning of turning and new life."
"Life is bigger and better than we can imagine and, in order to enter into the beauty of life, we often have to be dragged through the death of our illusions and the collapse of our smaller hopes. This brings liberation."
"Real life breathes just like we do, in and then out. It moves and changes just like the seasons. It's dynamic never static."
"But change never happens with one insight or one decision or one event. I think good habits are the greatest tools for character building and bad habits are the greatest weapons for the dissipation of ourselves."
"If you know something is wrong but you don't do anything about it, then your knowledge is of no use at all."
"Love must triumph over chaos... Love always triumphs in the end even when that involves embracing failure and death."
"But change never happens with one insight or one decision or one event. I think good habits are the greatest tool for character building and bad habits are the greatest weapon for the dissipation of ourselves."
"The ultimate cost of love is sorrow. The reward of love is the way through sorrow to greater and truer love. Finding the way is about tearing away one's illusions."
"Whether rich or poor, it's the ability to make sacrifice real that is the key to life and health."
"Sadness is often thought of as a problem. In our over-medicated world, some people find themselves in the health system and even placed in a chemically induced fog so that they don't feel the full effect of their sadness. But sadness is as necessary as oxygen. If our capacity for sadness is diminished then so is our capacity for life. There is a world of difference between sadness and depression."
"Life itself is fluid. You can bathe in it; you can drink it in and be nourished by it; you can float in it but you can never possess it. You can't hold it still and if you could, it wouldn't be life but a mere psychological trick or delusion. Life moves; spring, summer, autumn and winter; day and night; high tide and low tide; birth and death and birth; everything is on the move, even me."
"Sometimes sadness is the only gift I have for someone. I'll bet if you had eyes to see, you could read my face and know the depth of my longing to meet and know and love and be known."
"...I really tire of a world that has become convinced that life resides in feelings and that any immoral act becomes okay if we're being honest at the time."
"To be in the presence of another human being is awesome. It is to have your breath taken away by sheer beauty. It is to be shocked. It is to be arrested. It is to be changed. This is the joy and agony of my life. In a pragmatic culture, people are mostly reduced to a means to an end. When people become problems to be solved rather than people to be met, it's no wonder that loneliness and isolation are our greatest social need. All real living is meeting."
"The fluidity of life is perplexing: Everything that is beautiful is rapidly changing; it appears from nowhere and evaporates without notice. The beauty of life appears without being summoned and it evaporates no matter how tightly we hang on to it. Indeed the tighter our grip, the more complete is the dissipation and the more haunting and embarrassing is the result."
"If you have, or had, a good mum you are the recipient of an incalculably precious gift. Many have not had such a gift. Remember the Scriptures say, 'Honour your Mother and Father, if they are worth it.' Or it should do anyway."
"Within a healthy relationship there is a seed that can spring with life, even if it otherwise looks dead. The power is not in the seed, but in the interaction of the seed with the soil and sun and water."
"I long to gaze and be gazed upon; to know and be known; to love and to be loved. Often I gaze and I know that the person in front of me cannot see me. They see a potential soft touch or perhaps an authority figure. They look to experience or use me but have no concept of meeting me."
"Love embraces pain and without minimising it, knows that for the sake of the one loved, it is all worth it. Most parents and all lovers know this."
"There is no single person; humans are hard wired as relational beings; to reduce humanity to 'one' is to violate the very essence of what it means to be human. The minimum number in the basic human unit is at least two. So the word 'I' could only ever refer to half of something. We in the west love the idea of the 'power of one' but it is a total illusion. So, there is no such thing as success except shared success and there is no such thing as failure except shared failure."
"We naturally develop high hopes for our careers, children, investments and communities for all of these are good things. But good things are fluid and life is to be lived most fully when we recognise the passing nature of everything beautiful."
"But anyone who loves another person knows they have placed themselves in a vulnerable position. To love is to be vulnerable. To love is to embrace weakness. It is to pay the price of being with another. The pain of the other becomes my pain. The joy of the other becomes my joy. I can only enter into this love through a path of openness. I cannot make anyone love me an, if I could, it would only be a form of manipulation. I must simply enter into the space of the other and hope they recognise my weakness. Once recognised, love is well worth all the suffering in the world."
"All I have is the power of presence which is disappointing for those who seek magic but the greatest gift for those who need to know that they're not alone."
"Life is about learning to love. Love is about learning weakness in order to set aside personal ambitions for the sake of others. The religious life is about nothing else. Religious knowledge that can be separated from love and life is a blasphemy."
"There is an oblivion that doesn't destroy the self. There is an oblivion that is right and holy. It is the act of knowing that my essence is not located in me, but located between me and you."
"Our world so needs an outbreak of love."